The broken Friendship

If you don’t trust anyone, never make him your friend otherwise you will lose chance of being friend with some who you can trust. I have never understood why people have to fake the friendship for the sake of it. 

There is one friend of mine, who used to be my good friend and frankly I thought he is one of my close friend. I used to share most of things in my life with him and also I used to think that he is one of them who are good person and truly a good friend, but when I look back today it all seems to be an illusion created by me. I never expected him to do anything for me, but just wanted that person to be true with me. I guess that never happens, what you expect from other and what they expect from you are always different. I just asked myself why it made me so upset. Why do I still think about that failed friendship?

The answer was simple, I have been so open to him that I expected the same from him, but it don’t happen the same way always, you can never govern the other people life and the way they are thinking, the way they behave with you. You can always do you part but you should not expect other one to do their part perfectly. There are so much human emotion involved in each relationship that you don’t know which one is true, some time you hate something and other day you love it. But people say friendship is above that, I thought so but it could not hold true in my case. I still feel angry about that thing why he has to hide from me so many things; I was not a good friend? What made my case more complicated is that he always told me lies but I came to know all things from someone else, and that hurt the most, our relationship changed.

I have questions which can’t be answered, you know if he says that you were not good friend and you never shared you life with me, so I could not do the same. I could understand that, I would have fine with it. Not everything can be shared with everyone I know, but you have to always share some part to the people you trust. Because they will always be with you, no matter what happens in life. I am still with that friendship, hanging in there but not sure when the true nature of friend will be back. I hope it does but not sure it will ever happen.

I always think of blaming lots of people for this, but I realized with time that other people can’t be hold responsible for the thing happen between me and him, It was down the life me or him responsible for this, because we allowed this to happen to us. After writing this piece may be I will feel much better because some time broken images hurt you most in life, no matter how much you try to heal it.

Only jUsT fRiEnDs......

Biggest problem in love,Gud guys gets wrong girl..N Gud girls gets wrong guy.They fall in love and good ones get cheated .Now the good guys think all the girls are fraud;And the good girls think all the guys are flirt.And when good guy meets good girl they avoid falling in love and becomes just...

 GOOD FRIENDS :-):-)J

So you stop falling in love because you have made a single wrong decision in life. And they never want to go ahead one step further as they are afraid of being again cheated and manipulated in life. But you are easy in being good friends; they are no emotional drama, no search of where about, no need to reach on time to meet in short “no tension in life”. Even if they have a feeling for each other they will not express it because of thought that it even this might end. 

Someone said, 

“Naya pane ki chahat me purana chuttt jata hai,

Jo tujhse milne aata ho to zaman rooth jata hai”…

Being friends is easiest and the hardest thing in life. You never knew about how other or you feel about the other till that thing is gone from you. 

Why can’t there be a simple relationship called “FRIENDSHIP”

I am sick and tired of hearing a filmy dialog, “A boy and a girls can never be only FRIENDS”. Why, because they are never given chance to be friendship or it is some other thing. As a girl I can tell you few things which are becoming Intolerable for us.

When you meet any boy or man, he will start with a simple and plain nature that we only want to be good friends but few months later you will find out that now he is in love with you. Now things will not end here they will go on to explain things you about hours how they feel, how much they want you even if you are “NOT INTRESTED”. Just like girls don’t have a choice, well Mr. dude get something on your brain which is filled with only cricket and girls that we do have our brain and heart and we will make the choice as we want not as you want.

Even if they will agree to be your friend again, then they will give you the most problematic period. They will start asking you question like, where are you?, with whom you are?, why can’t you talk?, why can’t you message? I don’t like your friends don’t talk to them and list will go on. Please give me a break, it’s my life and I know how to live it. I don’t need security guard what I need is friend who can understand rather that just keep telling me what to do and what not to do.

It is strange in this male dominated society that if a girl talks to 4 boys she might be termed as bad. But if a boy talks to 4 girls either he is caring or he is dude. Just sick with mentality, even in the college most of them will look for getting mingle rather than being good friend.

Being a friend is always the last option in the boys list, they don’t like it. “JUST FRIEND” tag they hate to wear, but sometime you need to know that not every relationship where there is love and care is of love. Some time it is of friends, family and others. The best relationship you can have is friend but if he deserve to be. I sincerely hope this friendship day there realize it and try to be “FRIENDS”.

P.S.: I am not against thought of being falling in love, but against being falling for every girl which you see. This part is based on one of my close friend life who is sick of ROAD SIDE ROMEO…

The small things for Happiness

I am opening up myself once again after a gap of long time on my blog. It has been almost a month since I have written something about my life in my blog. In between I tried a lot to write about lots of thing starting from college life to someone social life, from our friend’s love life to our college cruses but I could write any one of them.

I asked myself thousand time’s what has happened to you saifi, how are not able to write anything?

I noticed a pattern which was scary in me. I was fed up with all the daily routine of office and home. It didn’t leave the time for me which I loved to have. Usually whenever I start to read the novel I finish in 2 to 3 days. But now I have been reading, “Second chance” for almost a month and still I am in the same chapter. Does I lost the appetite for the reading, oh come on how could I. it was the inner conflict which I could not decide which thought was right and which was not about myself.

With each day things were getting worse for me as I could not able do the things that once I loved most. So I came so close to quite all things I love from blogging to listening to music and also sometimes reading lots of blog.

Then one day there was rain in the city and from my office window I saw outside there was few kids playing in the rain. They all were so free spirit and enjoying the rain. It has been so long since I have enjoyed the pure drops of water from god. I thought in my inner self why? But no answer came.

I sat down to clear my head. The few thoughts that came in my mind were something like this:

I need to meet more often to my friends whom with I enjoy spending time

I need to start again following the blogs I love to read, football that I love (Chelsea club need to followed), start eating all kind of food which I missed in last few months

Most important was to start putting up my blog once again on the map. I don’t want to lose this part of my life in which I have invested so much of time. J

Well these all thins I decide about last week and this in my 3^rd post in last 3 days. It is nice feeling to doing what I wanted to do. I hope to not go on the same lane once again but some time you life become so bore that you need to show life that “I AM ALIVE, LET ME LIVE IT MY OWN WAY”……

P.S.: Well if in your life there are two ladies from which one motivate me and other motivates me to not do that things. Well then it always tough because you know you can’t say NO to either one…:)

It is not the destination but the journey that counts

What was MBA for me? 

For me this is what an MBA is all about. We might use all the heavy MBA jargon as we plough through from one term to another, but the interaction with others as diverse as the colours of the rainbow and the learning they bring to our lives is really what the MBA programme is all about.

At the end of the day, the results do not matter, the outcome does not matter, what matters is the journey, what value did you bring to people’s lives and what value did they add to yours.

When we all join MBA we all dream of getting good job in the end of college life. We all work hard for that only one goal and it leave us totally drained within first semester in college life. While no body realize that journey is more important rather than thinking about destination. If you have a good journey than in the end you will reach your destination.

In my time MBA I knew that I am not as good student as there were others in the class. They all were better student, better committed towards program and also towards life. I learned lots from them, from soft skill to hard skill it was never in course. The journey I had with them was some of the best thing that happened to me in past few years. I met people from all kind of places but the thing that most interested me was how they think about their life and how they live it.

I was always a spoilt kid in my family because I was youngest but when I met people in MBA; I realize I had it so easy in life all the time. How people have struggled with time, fought with family, arranged money to get here. They all have a plan for life and how they want to go about things. I always interesting to meet self made people, they will tell you about the exp they have still they will not force you to accept it.

In my journey I found few good friends, few good memories and also in the end of a job where I learning a lot. Though some time I feel like choking with time, deadline but then that’s fun of doing job in STARTUP.

It is the journey that will make you realize what you really want from life. Some time your target might change after few years down the line but the exp. You will have from your journey; never lost it because that is the best learning any one can have in life.

P.S.: if you want to tell other about your college journey write us at iecmba2009.11@gmail.com

The child Inside us..( Saifi and Jayant)...

Well this video is proof that some time we all have child inside us (Especially this is for me and Jayant) as we are the most innocent and cute boys you would ever see. 

This is a video of last year when we were in last days of our college days. One day we decided to skip usually routine and go to Dhaba near the reliance fresh in Greater Noida. After dinner in that night we returned around 10 or 11 PM to our flat. There was park just behind our flat but we were not able to enjoy free time in Jhoola because of some kids who think we are too old for these things. After you get saved yourself from kids then there will aunty who will shout at you for the simple thing like, “See yourself, you will broke this thing”.

They all tried to give us the feeling that we are too old for all these things. At the night time the whole park was empty. You could only see the stars in the sky, and that day child inside me and jayant got chance to play.

This video was shot by Vikas and raj without telling us that they are preparing video, but today when I see this video it remind me lots of good thing that I did at that time of year. It was one of the times that I had or might have in my life. I don’t know why I like this video this is one of the best time we had with the child we are losing in our self.  

 P.S.: Some time we all need to go back to see what we where when no body knew us....

Deepak "Rousa" IEC-MBA farewell poetry.....

Well I am at loss of word after again seeing this live performance of Mr. Deepak “Rousa”. Few months back he said to me, “saifi bhai please put my video in the blog”. But due to some reason or other I was not able to do it. Today I had nothing to do, just randomly pick up this and completed all the work. If you listen this video, it will start with long shout of “Bhagat singh huh tumhare sath hai”.

Well he has some good poems always reserved for us. Listen this end enjoy your day…J

“Mahul tere jaane se gamgeen ho gaya hai,

Ankho se nikla pani namkeen ho gaya hai”……

 

P.S.: This video is for all my dear friend Deepak and his these poems are for all the IEC MBA students....:)..

The Economics of Commerce Students

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As a commerce student I used to always hate being compared to Science student. I never understand why we all compared to a science student to judge as intelligence. Either in marks or anything but anyway that the way education system of India has been science student oriented.

As a commerce student you quite early realize that you are not made for those chemistry equations and illogical spelling in Biology (I was terrible on both of them). You don’t want to go to arts, so by luck or by chance you arrive in commerce. Here world is quite different everything is not fixed as in science but not imaginary as in arts. It is a mix of both to teach you about the perfect blend of both. After commerce you have mostly left with little option for the carrier like CA (way to much study needed) and MBA (You are Idiot if you think you can join IIM after commerce graduation). But mostly you will find most commerce not opting for CA they go for MBA or either they do their own business.

Now the battle starts with science student in graduation. All those wana be engineers and doctors fail in their field so they do what, join any good commerce course to save their career. I am not against it but there should be some protection for the commerce student as there is for science student.  They come and take one seat in a good college from commerce student away, and the student who has worked hard for 2 years to reach this place will  not be notice because in exam all the question where from math’s and quant’s. So it makes them to go for a secondary college.  And all wana be engg. And Doc takes their places. What a bright future this country has.

It never ends here, after B.com and BBA most of commerce student opt for either CA or MBA. Well for MBA you need to prepare for English, Quants and much more things. But who ask question of economics, finance or say business management. They we all realize it was all wrong studies we have done till now. In commerce we were all taught you can do anything but we realize we can’t beat engg. Students in quants because they are doing it for 4 years but can they beat us in economics or finance, my answer will be NO. At least give us the fair playing ground to compete with. Include these also part of it then see how things can be change for Commerce student.

Everybody see the rat race to get in the college but how we are getting in there and how unfair the system with some of the people. I don’t know but some time I think for commerce student it is unfair. Well at the end of day that is the way system is some time, unfair but most of time an old system in place.

P.S.: As a commerce student I always envy science student for only thing, they have a choice after 12 also to come in commerce but we don’t have choice to change.